When I moved from the Philippines to Sweden, going to language school first and suddenly becoming a mother to Daniel after two years was a blessing in surprise. Erik, Daniels' father, was given a "papa ledighet" parenthood leave of absence paid for two years from his work so he could take care of Danny while I'm off to work and go to school. It was a difficult time and was thankful to Erik parents, who has been a mountain to lean on, a "klippa" as we say it Swedish. I started then my business when Daniel was two and he has to go to "kleuterklas"- nursery class until he is six. I still continued going to school since I believe that education is a dynamic continous transformer. Learning is forever. But there should be balance.
There was none. Working too hard and learning too much for the future without paying attention to the "NOW" was a horrible mistake. I have lost a motherhood, that still kept me to be strong and tangible, for the sake of a better future. A year later, it was all gone. Marriage and motherhood. Chagrin and all that, I asked myself "have I made the right choices"? Reality bites because it is quite obvious I did not.
.........to be continued
